Sexual Intimacy and Incontinence

Don’t allow your sex life to fall victim to continence concerns. With some simple steps, you can get sex back on track.

 

     1. Talk to your partner

Intimacy in a relationship isn’t just about the physical, it’s also about trust and accepting each other’s vulnerabilities.

If your continence issue is because of a prostate condition, you may have erectile difficulty as well. Discussing these concerns with your partner and gaining their understanding before getting romantic will boost your confidence as well as take the pressure off any performance or leakage issue you might have.

American site WebMD has a practical article titled Erectile Dysfunction: Talking to Your Partner which may be helpful.

Broaching the subject can be difficult and as situations differ, you may wish to contact the National Continence Helpline on 1800 33 00 66 for a confidential conversation with a trained professional. They’ll be able to provide individualised guidance on all aspects of sexuality and incontinence, including having the conversation with your partner.

 

     2. Planning 

  • Avoid bladder irritants like tea, coffee, alcohol and carbonated drinks for several hours before sex
  • Cease fluids an hour or so before
  • Empty your bladder and/or bowel
  • Put a towel on the bed so you’re not worried about leaks, linen or the mattress
  • The Continence Foundation of Australia also has some useful tips for men to manage continence and sex including for those using a catheter

 

     3. Experiment

Explore positions that don’t put pressure on your bladder such as side-by-side or rear entry. 

And of course, there’s more to sex than intercourse! If you’re having erectile problems, consider other ways to give and receive pleasure such as a vibrator or other sex toys. You can purchase products like these discreetly online.

If you have your partner’s trust and are feeling comfortable and secure, intimacy is only limited by your imagination.